I am always puzzled when people say that “any woman just wants to have children. It is her instinct. An innate desire.” I never had such a desire or instinct. On the contrary, from the moment I became self-aware, I knew I did not want to be pregnant, give birth, or spend a lifetime raising other human beings, especially my own offspring.
The assumption that a woman naturally wants to have children is utterly wrong and has nothing to do with facts or modern human reality. What I observe instead is that women (men too) end up in parenthood because society gives them no real alternative. You breed, or you are treated as a creep, a weirdo, or, better yet, an egoist. They know that they got us with this one. It leaves you with no option but to explain yourself, to prove to the accuser that you are not, in fact, selfish or a child-hater.
Honestly, I find it boring and exhausting. Why engage in this discussion at all? Why feel guilty when we know perfectly well that most breeders simply gave in to indoctrination, and then try to put the free down as a way to make themselves feel better about their own ruined freedom, opportunities, and money — gone. Whether I am attacked or not makes no difference to me. It certainly won’t make me suddenly jump up and get pregnant, or lie that I yearn to carry a parasite inside my body and be ripped open when it finally leaves.
Has anyone ever done a study and actually asked women whether they want to be mothers — to become pregnant, go through labor, put years of their lives on hold, and squander opportunities they might otherwise have had? I doubt it. All we see is endless baby and happy-mother propaganda. No one ever asked me whether I wanted to be a mother. Do they ask anyone? Is motherhood an actual choice, or does it just happen? I know what it is for most women.
What kind of society are we living in if we are not only denied the right to opt out, but are also told there is no other option? Society’s obsession with babies and reproduction is not benign — it is a tyranny, a way to keep people exploited for life by forcing them to educate, clothe, feed, and endlessly attend to their children.
What I would like to see is very simple. I want people to be left alone. I want women to know exactly what having a man’s penis inside them can do to their bodies and to their lives. I want a society in which people are actually asked whether they want to be parents. I want those who regret becoming parents to be able to speak openly, without fear of vitriol or banishment.
In the meantime, most women around the world either do not know they are allowed to opt out of motherhood or are forced into pregnancy. The least the free West could do is stop pretending that all women want to be mothers.
2025